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Ethical porn and where to find it
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Ethical porn and WHERE to find it

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Nowadays, when it comes to the supply chains of what we wear, eat, drink, get off on need to be transparent and brands (and orgasms) now need to be honest to catch the wandering eye (and hands) of consumers. Zero judgment on however you like to get off, but there are a lot of very real, very valid concerns with mainstream porn. From catering to a very binaried audience AKA what men find hot, to shady distribution and treatment of performers, getting under the hood of mainstream porn can actually lead to it feeling like a MASSIVE turn-off. 

If you’re looking for something that packs a bit more of a principled punch than Pornhub, we hear you. But what actually IS ethical porn and where the hell is it hiding?

Sometimes called feminist or fair-trade porn, ethical porn is basically exactly what it sounds like. Think of it like mainstream porn’s woke sister. It validates the needs, concerns and safety of performers, meaning that everyone involved is *actually* having a good time, rather than theatrically faking it. It usually shows more realistic sexual scenarios, and critically isn’t just playing into the male gaze. A recent study showed that 1 in 4 people who visit porn websites aren’t straight or male identifying, and if that’s you then ethical porn has gotchu. 

Okay, so you’re probably wondering how you can tell if what you’re watching has been ethically made, or maybe what about it makes it so ethical? Here are the gamechangers. 

  1. The performers and crew get paid fairly. 

This is a MASSIVE part of the equation, and something that is shockingly rare in the porn industry. If you’re trying to get to the goods and find it’s behind a paywall, chances are some appropriately sized cheques have been cashed. 

  1. It’s made in a safe space

What that looks like in practice is the performer’s needs have been placed front and centre. No surprises, no pressure. Consent is sexy AF, amiright?

  1. The pleasure (and orgasms) are generally real 

This is a key component, and the big visual difference is seeing actual real pleasure, especially for people with vulvas. It might not be the slick, well-lit sexual olympics some people are used to, but it’s messy, sexy, passionate and real. 

  1. Diversity rules

In the mainstream porn world, it can often feel like you’re living in groundhog day. Why? Because the vast majority of performers look. The. Exact. Same. Thin, white, conventionally attractive. It’s almost like they’ve forgotten about the way the rest of the world looks, the fluidity of sexuality, and the fact that every age group has sex. Ethical porn is a lot more inclusive, and means more people get to see people who look like them having a spicy time. 

That sound good to you? Fab. You’re probably wondering where you can find this sexy, consensual content. Here’s a list of some excellent platforms to get you started, although it really pays off to do your own research. You know what you like, and it’s a big world out there! Oh and ALL of these are NSFW obvs. 

Frolicme

Frolicme was created with couples and people with vaginas in mind. It focuses on pleasure, passion and also offers articles and audio if you feel like shaking things up. 

Sssh

Sssh is super cool for several reasons. Firstly it’s crowdsourced so there’s a LOT of diversity - variety is the spice of life after-all, and secondly its the perfect combo of sex and artistry. Think virtual reality, interesting narratives and a totally different approach to getting off. 

Make Love Not Porn

Created by Cindy Gallop, MLNP is all about keeping it real. REAL couples send in their REAL videos and get paid for them. They can also stay anonymous if they choose, and remove their content whenever they like. Let’s hear it in the back one last time for consent! 

Kink.com

After something a little less vanilla? Head to kink.com, and yep, it’s exactly what it sounds like. Got a fetish? You’ll most likely find some fun and freaky content that’s right up your street on this badboy. 

Article Written by Ianthe Jacob

Article image credit @delaneychilds