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The best books on kink you need in your life

The best books on KINK you need in your life

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So you want to know more about kink, great! Whether you’ve been exploring for years, or a brand spanking newbie, it’s a fun, freaky and massive world out there, so reading up before you get down will always be worthwhile, wherever you sit on the sexy spectrum. 

Heard of looking before you leap? It’s even more important if you’re thinking about trying something new, setting boundaries or even just wondering wtf a safe word is. There’s a LOT out there, so we’ve narrowed it down to just 4, the créme de la créme for your pleasure (reading and all other kinds) to help keep you sane, safe and consensual. Whether it’s a complete guide, or just a saucy beach read, we’ve gotchu. 

The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

You’ll see this badgal appearing on a LOT of lists about non-traditional relationship and sexual dyanmics for a reason. It’s considered a groundbreaking guide on everything from practicing safe sex, self-reflection, honouring boundaries and defining relationships on your own terms. Experienced ethical sluts Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy know what is UP when it comes to keeping things fun, honest and emotionally sustainable. 

The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy

Published in the early 90’s, this book is less how-to manual but rather real-life anecdotes showing the sensations, feelings, meaning and power one can experience through a BDSM exchange, scene or practice. It can help with the language around the world of kink, and really gets under the hood of the psychology of why, how and what. It’s a classic for a reason, and perfect for beginners. 

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns by Philip Miller and Molly Devon

If you’re into visual learning, this one’s for you. This classic guide was written by two extremely experienced players, and comes with 225 photos and illustrations to help make getting sexy simple, as well as descriptions that don’t hold back on the juicy details. It’s fun, direct and helps smash through the myth, shame and fear that surround this intense form of feeling freaky. Plus it reads more like a spicy conversation over a cocktail rather than a dry college text. 

Kink edited by R.O Kwon and Garth Greenwell

If you love your literature, Kink is THE book for you, although “Kink” is not quite erotica. It’s more about the transformative nature of kink as a practice, and the different modalities — kink as anticipation, as communication, as processing, as a mind-eraser, as an anchor, as a code, as freedom — it can unleash. It’s a collection of fictional writing with a diverse selection of contributors (races, ethnicities, gender identities and sexualities of all types are represented). A spicy read, and not one to miss. 

Article written by Ianthe Jacob

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